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Sep 17

filipino OF guahan

one of the groups that i was able to connect with while visiting home is “Filipinos for Guahan”.  it was founded by six scholarly intellectuals who have made it their life’s work and continued purpose - to advocate for the shared interests of the native Chamorus using a uniquely-Filipino voice, inspiring reflections i have dwelled on all my life. 

i have a deep connection to Guahan even if native chamoru blood does not run through my veins.  my ancestry along with thousands of other Filipinos are an undeniable part of the fiber of Guahan’s history and will continue as such.  by examining empirical data and sharing stories, i have uncovered many remarkable commonalities: one shared the land that my grandfather built; another lives adjacent to our current primary residence; another’s dad worked in the same manufacturing plant as my dad did in the 70’s; others had uncles that enlisted in the military at the same time as my mom’s brothers; another person’s grandfather arrived the same year as my grandfather in 1949; another shared the same eagerness i once had to marry into a chamoru family.

these shared bonds are profound and distinct from the immigrant experience of Filipino Americans that came through the mainland.  as a non-minority group in the population, being Filipino from Guahan is complexly-intertwined and rich. the outsider and colonized mentality have become a means for fostering bonds as well as escalating tensions for many lifetimes.  as settlers alongside the natives, the greater good is at stake.

this is ever more personal for me as i navigate raising my Filipino son born from Guam and my Chamoru daughter born from California.  

in my ongoing written memoir i hope to do my ancestry justice by elaborating on these shared discoveries.

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Jul 12

sheltered-in-place

coming home to Guam for a prolonged stay of ten weeks would absolutely never have been anticipated if it weren’t for the pandemic. we are four months deep into this dystopian reality.  

i lost my job. i lost my boyfriend. what remains comforting is that i have not lost my health and sanity.  

Guam’s small population makes it seemingly easier to to get by when trying to limit social bubbles.  for example - most socialize with only their families and most of the time friends are considered a natural extension of a family. this extended “bubble” makes it hard to not go against recommended social distancing  protocols.  during my stay i had to appease my mother by reluctantly tagging along with her to church or accepting reassurance from a group that a family gathering of thirty people could only be benign. such pleasures are sadly what fueled the spread of COVID-19 since the start of  August and arguably as far back as mid-July when restrictions were slightly eased.  the mitigating efforts of the pandemic have gone against the very fabric of this island’s culture that thrives on maintaining close-knit ties.

yet most alarming of all are the rise of deaths and the toll of patients at local hospitals.  it is my hope of that the peak numbers will start to decline soon while i make my way back to the mainland.  California is no better than where i left it 10 weeks prior.  businesses have opened up but the lingering fear of possible infection has become greater.  i have not come close to securing a job and am constantly reflecting on what lies in the days ahead.
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Jul 12

guam is the proverbial reset button

i swore off ever coming back home, unless for a quick visit or layover.  this post is amidst an entirely different world - during a global pandemic of unfathomable proportions. 

how naively i thought 2020 was just going to be another year, perhaps minimally better than the year before.

i was flying through project work as a design manager for the world’s best architecture firm (statistically! - differing opinions do exist!) and on the cusp of flying off to spain after helping my then-boyfriend move to another city. two weeks into april, i was jobless and fleeing a relationship and city all at once. what am i to do but rediscover my life’s passion during this break while in the comfort and warmth of home, surrounded by friends and isolating with my senior-citizen parents for the first time ?  

it is a much-needed break but the best time for reflecting on the meaningful ways i am to power thru without endangering myself from an escalating infectious disease. since the beginning of the outbreak, i have tested twice to ease my worries. but i worry more so about how to resume new normal one day.  there are economic meltdowns and visible protests along with political unrest at every level. 

when will it be safe to return?  i’ve come home to find myself and surrender what i cannot control.

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Nov 20

far from home

it has been two years since leaving the island for a new beginning.  since then i have travelled many miles and my sense of home re-defined. no longer does home demand a physical presence on guam.

i accept the fleeting longing of flying back on a regular basis. i  understand the perspective of those who leave for many years without stepping foot on island.  i see why people feel
the need to stay away to measure progress as much as the need to come back for unmatched comfort.

my family and children have helped me re-establish what and where is home.  in typical mimi-fashion. multiple life changes unfolded in the last year: new address, new firm, and in and out of new relationships.  this is the farthest and longest i have been pulled away from guam.  last year i visited guam twice. 2018 is the first year that i did not step foot back home.  although i have been missing the people, i do not feel i have been missing out.  

such is the wonderment of leaving and wandering back - it always feels the same as when i left it. this bears both negative and positive feelings: calm and stability can be misconstrued for lack of progress; honest criticism interpreted as ungratefulness; focus viewed as lack of motivation or inspiration.  
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Apr 12

settled is not settling

i have an endless list of projects constantly in the works.  this empire that i continue to build in my head is infinitely tied to and inspired by guam, even without immediate plans to return. i aim to expand my reach with remote capability so that i can travel home as i please. now that i am truly detached, the possibilities are all the more limitless.  sometimes being away from guam removes you from the figurative island.  we don’t see things until we get away.

it has been a year and half and i am never settled. now officially a resident of Oakland, i am enjoying the urban pace.  

i am forever that girl-from-guam hustling in the city. 

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Oct 09

last homecoming

it’ll be the last for awhile, hoping for real closure.

there are always multiple forces pulling me home.  this time, a friend needed company and help travelling home with her kids.  this time, i've been aching to finally get my divorce filed. this time, i just want to be breathe.  when you are leaving on the cusp of the cold, the warmth of home becomes all the more enticing. 

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Jun 09

last time, this year

in February, Zamora and i visited Guam after leaving unexpectedly in august.  it felt familiar but i didn’t quite belong. it was a quick trip to pay our last repects to a close child of our family’s, who we sadly lost to leukemia.  i haven’t quite been able to get my clean slate beginning while so many things are in limbo.

Zamora is the new beginning that i am blessed with in life and if it’ll be just me and my kids for awhile, i’ll take it any day.


i've grown tired of the "this time, last year" reflection. i put the life-changing events that have transpired in the last year into perspective and accept that i am not in an unfavorable predicament. one thing i often fear is regret. it is so easy to say it out loud when deep down inside those haunting doubts make my stomach turn. regret and doubt do not bear the same consequences. regret i have to live with indefinitely and doubts eventually become displaced.  what i have preserved in all this? sanity, freedom, a newfound hope for happiness.
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Apr 11

guam on hold

this time last year i had only my govt job and the beach to worry about - not even my marriage until it was pulled from right under me. i spent the first decade of my adult life pining for some man from my birthland to settle with for the rest of my life so that i could easily return home and farm my future. i fixated on filling that gap with the goal of settling in guam in sight. i made it there but only lasted exactly three-hundred-sixty-five days. i barely got to plant those seeds. all those Guam-plans, dreams of permanent success, and well-intended contributions have been put on hold for the exact opposite result of where i started: divorce.

i fled from the abrupt disappointment and failure for freedom and less worry. Guam is now the source of misplaced aspirations, a broken family left behind, a sidelined career...muddled by pretty pictures of faraway faces left for me to visit on just the internet.

my Guam-state-of-mind is in indefinite disarray until the cycle of life allows me to resolve itself.
and i'm okay. there is no resentment. there is absolute acceptance that this is how it was meant to be
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Nov 01

cusp

why should i reject change if it is inevitable.  there will be momentary pause while i wait for things to get sorted.  it's not that i've run out things to write about, it's that i choose to remain silent while on the cusp.
i thought i needed a short break when i last left the island but realized it was better for me to move on.  guam ended up being a static state. it was a place that drove my marriage to the ground and thrust me back to California.
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Aug 10

breathe

my personal matters have now been shaken up once again: my marriage ended on a down-note and by bad decisions that were not my own and are not within my capacity to tolerate. it's cryptic, i know but i've now re-settled with my folks and my toddler in tow.

but amazingly, I finally can breathe. what happens next has yet to be written. 
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since April when I last wrote my world has once again been turned on its head. I was promoted to some important role at work and my job has taken on a whole new set of challenges and expectations...all of which I can handle. But I think about why i took the job of an architect for the navy here on Guam: to focus on my licensing and have less on-the-job pressures at work. this changed everything: deadlines, numbers, meetings with people in command, and a billion dollars of planning all on my plate. well the transition has simmered and I've been able to exceed expectations thus far. i can finally breathe.
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